In a dating relationship, self-gratification is normally the basis of the relationship.Instead of focusing on God’s pleasure, the couple is often looking for personal pleasure.Dating tries to answer the question, In a dating relationship, there is little if any accountability for the couple and little or no interaction with family members.The dating couple is merely attracted to one another in some way and often pursues an exclusive relationship that is independent of others’ influence or counsel.If defrauding (stirring up desires that cannot be righteously satisfied) occurs, the couple can foolishly and tragically give away both emotional and physical affections that should have been reserved for a life partner.
A couple participating in courtship seeks the accountability of their parents or other mentors."A relationship between a man and a woman in which they seek to determine if it is God’s will for them to marry each other" puts marriage on the table when the couple have not yet committed to such an end.This is no different than dating when two people get too intimate too fast (I do not mean sexually) and give away a piece of their heart. I am now married to a wonderful Christian man and we have 4 children.Although the termination of a courtship most likely will be painful, damage and hurt—which can lead to bitterness—can be avoided.Both parties, as well as their families and all the people who love them, should continue to trust in the Lord and accept the grace He gives to deal with any disappointment or unfulfilled hopes. The main difference between dating and courtship involves the goals to be reached by spending time with a potential marriage partner.