I go out to work and make money for my family to live on." From that, he would have derived his sense of self, of who he was in society.What's more it would have been one of the main motivators driving his life; a force, as history shows us, that allowed men to be the dominant sex in our world.Women now often out-perform men financially and especially educationally.What has actually happened, it seems to me, is that society, far from being feminised, has in fact been made more masculine, as both men and women fight to claim the ground that was once the preserve of men - that of high-flying, well-paid careers and glamorous lifestyles.It wasn't the first kind of argument of that sort they'd had.Over the years, there had been rows about who got up in the night with the baby or whose responsibility it was to see to the childcare arrangements.This sort of row would never have taken place between my mum and dad.
It would have gone something like this: "I'm a provider - I look after my wife and children.
Women's rights became just too urgent and too immediate, and though everyone knew that whenever women change there must be a reciprocal change for men, it was somehow assumed it would all work itself out in the great melting pot of life.
I remember thinking that it would be wonderful for men to be able to express their emotions in the way that women traditionally did.
But according to a recent survey, today's young men don't share their forebears' sense of entitlement. Indeed, 52 per cent of them believe they have to live by women's rules, and a staggering 82 per cent feel they have lost their traditional male role in society.
For most of them, this means feeling undervalued, their voices and opinions unheard.