I read a lot about being a single guy dating a single mom. To be honest, I started to feel like there was something wrong with me because I didn’t have a child, and I began to fear that I wasn’t going to be attractive to a man with a child, because I didn’t have any experience being a parent. This is one thing that I struggled with at the beginning, because jealousy is my special type of crazy. Second, despite his relationship with her or how she treats you, be kind and respectful to his ex.
Unless his children’s mother is deceased and he is a widower, there will be another woman in his life that he will need to commit to in some way, and she’s there to stay. Jealousy and worry aren’t going to help your relationship. No one says you have to like her, but kindness from you will go a long way in building a pleasant and respectful relationship.
Here are some things to consider when dating the divorced guy versus dating a guy who has never said “I do.” 1. Then again, maybe I’m not giving the never been married guy enough credit. Just be aware that he’s never been married, so up until now, he hasn’t. He’s carrying way less baggage than the divorced guy.
Here’s the deal, when you are a single woman in her mid-30s, with no children, pretty much every man you are going to meet, that is your age, and you want to date is going to have children.
Kids: Someone who is divorced (depending on his age) most likely has kids, which means he will feel a little bit more comfortable with your kids. Nakedness in broad daylight, those annoying habits, likes clothes all over the floor, the burping and farting you never experience when you’re dating, and really the way the person lives. He’s not bashing his ex every three days, he’s not saying good-bye to his kids and then having that sad look on his face, and he doesn’t have that wounded look that says, “My wife ruined my life.” The never been married guy is fresh, untainted. Commitment: There’s commitment and then there’s commitment. He stood in front of God or a judge and a crowd of people and agreed to commit in writing. Both divorced guys and guys who have never been married can be amazing guys. In other words, I’m not saying one is better than the other.
Remember, there are some guys who have never been married who have kids, and there are some guys who have never been married but have dated a lot of women with kids, so they might be used to being around kids. The ability to be domestic, in other words, can he play house? Although, how do I know he wasn’t madly in love and then dumped? A guy who has never done that could have a commitment issue. There are advantages and disadvantages to both guys.
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